Well, that was fun few months!  Kyle and I  have literally been moving since Oct 2021.  Yes, I do know it is now May!  Back in Oct we moved into the house we bought (which was 2 ½ hours away from where our old house and shop were in Ocean Isle Beach, NC.  Then the week of Christmas we moved out of the one side of our shop (that was a nightmare and a disaster all rolled into one).  Then in March, we took over the space where our shop is now located in Southern Pines, NC and we started renovating.  Now we had two shops up and running (did I mention they were 2 ½ hours from each other). We finally moved out of the old shop in Ocean Isle Beach, NC on April 30th! 

For those of you doing the math, that was 6 months of driving back and forth!  We were spending 3 days at our new place and 4 days at our old shop.  Towards the end, Kyle and I had to split up in order to get the job done!  If he was at the old shop in Ocean Isle Beach, I was in Southern Pines at the new shop and vice-versa.  Months and months of very long 12-hour workdays and no days off.  Of course in the middle of all of that we were dealing with all the “real life” crap that happens and oh did it happen!  People close to me having surgery, being hospitalized, and on and on. 

I am sharing all of this because quite frankly I am becoming increasingly concerned with the direction our society is going in.  There seems to be this crazy belief that if you are living your dream life you are just lucky.  I love my life and I absolutely love what I do!  I also love the things that I have worked really hard to have. I am also willing to work hard so I can live the life I want.  Trust me when I tell you “luck” has nothing to do with it.  

I fear that we have become a society of instant gratification and I think that is very dangerous.  People don’t just wake up in their dream life.  They work hard, they fail, they get up and they try again.  They keep trying until they achieve their goals.  It isn’t easy but it can absolutely be done.  Yet, for some reason, we no longer talk about all those “hard years”.  No one talks about all the struggles and crappy jobs the actors/actresses/singers/musicians/etc had BEFORE they “made it”.  No one talks about all the times a business failed or struggled before the person finally became successful.  Why do we not share more of the journey with each other?  I really think it is time we start being real with one another.  

I have my own philosophies about what is going on in our world.  Honestly, it is way too much to go into.  I will just say that I believe we are suffering from what I like to call the “Fakebook Disease”.  Ya know how everyone pretends to have a perfect life on social media.  However, I do believe we are at a crossroads.  I personally wish we would get a little tougher.  Listen it is nice to be loving, caring, and compassionate.  However, pity parties and feeling sorry for each other honestly helps no one. Don’t get me wrong, being compassionate is great!  I just wish we would just start mixed compassion with hope, information, and empowerment.  What do I mean by that?  Thanks for asking!  I just wish when something bad or unfair happens to someone instead of telling them how they are the victim non-stop I wish we would help each other to move beyond that bad thing.  Does that make sense?

I have had some really horrible things happen to me in my life.  Some I have written about, some I have not.  I think back to those times and I always had someone pushing me forward. I always had someone in my life saying, “I am so sorry that thing happened to you but right now you have to make a choice.  You are either going to get stuck being the victim OR you are going to figure out how to move past this”.  Thank God for all those Earth Angels that have been instrumental throughout my life.  I can’t imagine where I would be had I just become forever hurt, angry, and defeated.  I can’t imagine where I would be if just one person didn’t say, “You got this”!

This is probably going to make a lot of people mad and I am okay with that because I think it is time for truth!  The key to happiness is taking personal responsibility!  If that makes you angry good!  Now use that anger to move FORWARD!  No, you do not have control over everything that happens to you.  However, you do have control over how you react and respond. You do have control over making the decision to move forward. You do have control over putting together a support system to assist you.

I was talking to a client recently about the car accident I was involved in way back in 1998.  I was run off the road by a drunk driver who then fled the scene.  After that accident, I was mad at the world! I was mad at the court system for constantly giving this man his license back time after time. I was mad at my insurance company for settling with him.  I was mad at his mother who clearly knew he had a major drinking problem.  I hate to admit this out loud but I was even mad at God for allowing such a horrific thing to happen when I had my two young children in the car.  In fact, I was so mad at the world that I stopped teaching meditation, doing readings, and doing healing work.  I was just sick, angry, and miserable.  However, God didn’t care that I was mad at him because he sent me a message through an Earth Angel that changed my life!  As a result, I snapped out of it and started moving in the direction of creating my dream of owning a Holistic Healing Center.  A short time later I officially opened Spiritquest.  I can’t imagine what my life would have been like if I did not move forward.  I can’t imagine if I had stayed in that space where everything was everyone else’s fault and I was just forever stuck in my victimhood.

I say time and time again, that life is not fair.  It isn’t meant to be fair, perfect, or a walk in the park.  Life has it’s ups and downs.  It has great moments and horrific moments.  The great news is ….each and every day you have the choice to decide which direction you want to go in!  I always choose FORWARD!

Ps…if no one has told you this today….YOU GOT THIS!!!!!!