Many of you may not know this but I am Italian, Polish and Hungarian. Growing up I heard every insulting Polish joke there was!  Of course I also heard “your family must have mob connections since your Italian” more times then I can remember!   LOL!  And OMG being a professional Psychic….well let’s just say I have heard it all.  The stupidest comments time and time again.   Yet here I am!

Those of you who have followed my life know all of the up’s and down’s there have been over the years. I have never hide my challenges, disappointments or what some may term “failures” (I call them necessary experiences I don’t choose to have again).  It hasn’t always been easy. I have been in my field for over 20 years now.  I have owned my business for over 17 years!  I successfully raised 2 kids without alimony or child support.  I have worked through illnesses, surgeries, losses and on and on.  Yet, I have basically accomplished almost every goal I have set for myself!  So why am I bringing this all up?  Because looking back I realize it is what I DIDN’T do that has gotten me where I am!

What didn’t I do?  I DIDN’T become the long term victim!  I didn’t spend years blaming everyone else for my problems!  I didn’t sit around sulking and waiting for someone else to fix me! I didn’t spend years asking “why” while I spiraled into a negative, sulking, non functioning hopeless place of no return!    Now don’t get me wrong…I got hurt, mad, upset, disillusioned, frustrated, felt hopeless and on and on but I didn’t get stuck in it!  I didn’t use it as an excuse to not move forward.

We are in a new energy space. It is no longer about spending years trying to figure out “what you did wrong” or “recovering from the actions of others”.  We are now in a space of making choices and moving forward.  So what is my best advise….SUCK IT UP BUTTERCUP!  For everything you are going through there is someone that is going through something 100 times worst.  For everything you are allowing to pull you down there is someone who has already went through it, got over it and is now doing great!

Am I pissing you off?  GOOD!  Cause I would rather have you mad and moving forward then to feed into hopelessness, the blame game and a never ending cycle of excuses.  And before you get ready to send me a message telling me how I don’t understand and YOUR situation is different…I have been reading for people for over 20 years.  Trust me when I tell you there is NOTHING that I haven’t heard, there is NO situation that can’t be overcome and there is no reason EVER for you to give up choosing to be happy.

The bottom line is NO one gets through this life without experiencing disappointment, loss, anger, injustice and on and on.  So let’s all be better and stronger than the challenges we face!  Let’s all not feed into the sadness and hopelessness.  Let’s be tough with each other and when one of us is falling into that space let’s shake them and say “you are better, stronger and deserving of moving beyond this.

ps…just as a side note as I am typing this I am feeling like some of you reading this may have recently lost loved ones and you are really being angered by this.  So let me assure you of two things.  One you ABSOLUTELY have the right to feel devastated and to grieve.  Two, I can promise you with every cell of my being that your loved one wants nothing more than for you to move on and live a wonderful happy life.  I have NEVER EVER in over 20 years connected with a loved one who wanted their passing to destroy their loved ones life.  The best way you can honor your loved one is by remembering them in a healthy happy way. Remember if they were here and you were the one on the other side you would want them to move on and be happy.