Okay folks it’s time!  Time for a reminder about what 2020 was supposed to be about.  I think we can all agree, the meaning of 2020 seems to have gotten lost somewhere along the way.  So lets review.  The theme was supposed to be relationships (if you would like to watch the “2020 The Year of Relationships” video I did back in Jan, simply click here).  Remember?  Does anyone remember what the most important relationship was going to be?  It was the relationship with ourselves.  I find it funny (NOT really) how we were put on lockdown, everything removed, no distractions.  It was like we were being forced to only focus on us!  We were being forced to look at where our happiness truly comes from.  Is our happiness coming from things and people around us instead of from US?  Are we truly happy with ourselves?

I have been talking to so many of you who have had HUGE epiphanies during these last few months.  As a result, so many of you have started making some serious changes to your lives.  Many of you have identified the things that weren’t working, all the areas of your life where you were just settling, and all the things that just no longer work for you.  Many of you have already made some truly significant changes based on these realizations!  Yet there are so many out there who are still so truly lost!  They are stuck in fear and anger.

These last few months I have also been on quite a journey.  Like so many of you, there have been the ups and downs, celebrating the little moments and the tears for the moments lost.  I have had days where I witness the greatest of kindness and compassion and then there are days where I am truly ashamed to be a human on this planet.  However, at the end of the day, I realize that all of us who are working our way through these times have some common beliefs.  These beliefs, these values, these awarenesses truly seem to be what sets those who are thriving apart from those who are simply surviving.  I thought I would share some of these things with you.

Your happiness is YOUR responsibility
Not sure if this is politically correct in this day and age, but it is the truth!  I am sorry to say it is time to get tough!  If you don’t like your job you have the CHOICE to go find another one.  In a crappy relationship?  You can leave it and move on.  Don’t have enough money?  Maybe it is time to get a new job or a second job.  Tired of being tired?  It is up to you to make the CHOICE to take better care of yourself.  And on and on and on.  Hopefully, you get the point.  I am finding it truly disturbing that we have stopped EMPOWERING each other and instead we are feeding into this belief that we have no power over our own lives!

You choose what you hold onto and what you let go of
I have to tell you very honestly that if I hung on to every horrible, despicable thing that people have done to me I would probably be in an insane asylum (and I mean that seriously).  I don’t get people.  I really don’t.  I don’t understand why it always seems to be the people that you do the most for that hurt you the worst.  Why it seems to be those you go above and beyond for that appreciate it the least.  However, I can tell you that no matter what is done to you, it is only YOU who can choose whether or not you let it go!  I always say HAPPINESS is the best revenge!  No need to focus on what was done.  Instead, just take all that energy and put it towards creating YOUR best life!

The only moment that truly matters is the present.
“If you are depressed, you are living in the past.  If you are anxious, you are living in the future.  It is only when you are living in the present that you can truly be at peace”.  I love that!  I remind myself of that each and every day!  Try it for yourself!  I am telling you that whenever I am feeling down it is usually because I am thinking of something bad that happened, something someone did, or something that I can’t change from the past!  Whenever I find myself worrying it is always about something coming up, something that might happen, or something that may be years down the road!  It is amazing how when you only allow yourself to focus on the present, how EMPOWERED you feel!

I know things are crazy.  I know we have become a nation divided.  I know it seems like everyone is picking sides.  AND I know it seems like it will never end.  BUT it is NOT too late to make this your best year ever!  Over the last few months, I have found that we all have a lot more in common than we even realize.  I have found that if we speak less and listen more an amazing thing happens….we find wonderful things to love and respect in each other.  I have found that when I turn off my TV and I refuse to scroll through social media I start to notice all the truly wonderful things going on in the world.  When I close my eyes and look at the world through my Spiritual eyes I see something no one else will show you.  I see that we ARE ALL ONE!

My wish for you this month is that you stop focusing on surviving and that you truly focus on thriving through these challenging times.  If you don’t think you can, maybe you need to join us for our FREE Wed night “Happy Hour with Guided Meditation”.  You can join us via zoom or through our private facebook group called “Spiritquest Live”!  For more info click here.  Remember, we ARE all one!  We will THRIVE through this together!