Where to even begin?  To say there is a LOT going on in our country would be a huge understatement! I have a lot of concerns.  I have a lot of opinions.  I have even more questions.  I feel sad.  I feel angry.  I feel overwhelmingly disappointed in the human race as a whole.  During times like these, it can sometimes be very difficult to find those words of encouragement.  It seems no matter what you say you are offending someone.  Gone are the days of, “Well I don’t agree with you but….”.  We have now entered a world where everyone needs to be right or else!  

Where do we go from here?  How will the final paragraph read when we finally close the chapter on this time in our history?  Honestly, I think our future is very up in the air right now.  I also think that is a good thing because that means we still have time to shift the final outcome! 

If you want to know what I think (which I am assuming you do since you are reading this), I think we need to start by remembering that little thing called “free will”. In fact, I believe that “free will” may just be the solution to all the problems we are facing!  Call me crazy but I 100% believe that if we all took a moment to go within we could literally change the world.  If we just took one moment to stop worrying about what everyone else was saying and doing.  If we just took one moment to ask ourselves some questions I truly believe we could shift all of the horrific things currently going on.  What questions?  I am so glad you asked!

Before we get to the questions we need to understand something very important.  We need to understand that we are all mirrors to each other.  We bring up stuff for each other (good stuff, bad stuff, and stuff we don’t want to deal with).  All of it is designed to help us evolve.  It is like shining a light on the things we no longer need to hold on to.  It is actually empowering by showing us exactly what we need to let go of in order to step into our true authentic selves.  Here are just a few questions that can get you focused, assist you in healing, and truly change your future:

What is this bringing up for me?
Seriously why are you so hurt, angry, upset?  Until we are brave enough to look at what is really going on with ourselves we can’t change anything.  Why do you care if someone thinks the wall is orange and you see it as peach?  Why can’t it be a little of both?  How is them thinking the wall is orange truly impacting your life?  What is this sparking in you?  What is inside of you that needs to be healed?  

Recently I had something happen in my life where I truly felt (and still feel) the person didn’t make any effort what so ever to get my side of a story.  I was truly hurt.  Okay, I was beyond hurt.  If I have to be honest, even  as I am typing this several more people are coming to mind. Several people who just assumed stuff without even bothering to ask me what had actually unfolded or to hear my side of a story.  In each of these situations, I was deeply hurt.  Seriously, devastatingly hurt.  After giving it much thought (and without going into too much backstory) I realized something very important.  I realized that each and every time someone does something like that.  Each and every time I feel that someone is not defending me it is taking me back to something horrible that happened in my childhood.  Again, I am not going to go into the details.  I will just say that there was an incident when I was younger where I was not protected.  Now as an adult when I feel someone doesn’t even bother to hear my side of a story or someone doesn’t stick up for me it energetically takes me right back to that horrible event where I felt so unprotected.  So you see it actually has nothing to do with the people who don’t get my side, or who I feel don’t defend me.  It is all about what it is bringing up for me!

Once you are aware of this you are able to free yourself from the distraction of arguing or fighting with others.  Instead, you are able to turn within and start the healing process for yourself.  Those other people are simply the catalyst to the healing.

How is this helping me in a positive way?

I talk about this all the time as it is truly that important!  How is hanging on to your pain and anger helping you?  How is taking on the hurt and anger of others helping you?  How will changing someone else’s viewpoint truly change your life?  When we start asking ourselves the right questions we take back our power!  I don’t need to argue with you about anything.  In fact, the truth is we all have the right to think, feel, and believe what we wish to.   

Last year was a very educational year for me.  There is a saying that I actually have in my home that says, “People may forget what you did but not how you made them feel”.  I have to tell you that after the hard lessons I had to learn last year I really want to change it.  I feel like it should say, “ People will forget what you did and how you made them feel if it means they have to look at themselves and their own lives”.  After all, it is much easier to blame everyone else than to go within and begin the true process of healing.  

What can you do to truly make a change in a positive way?

Words without action are just words.  You can’t fight hate with more hate, anger with more anger and fear with more fear.  I am telling you from an energetic perspective there is just no scenario where that works!  The only true way to make a change is through POSITIVE action!  I have always thought that if people spent as much time creating positive change as they do complaining the world would truly be heaven on earth.

One day it was brought to my attention that there is a huge poverty issue in our area which especially impacted the children. Rather than complaining about it, I made a choice to try to be part of the solution.  Kyle and I started participating in the P&J Drive (where they collect Peanut Butter and Jelly for kids), the Back to School Drive (where they collect supplies for school children), and Toys for Tots (cause Kyle is a Marine and it is a GREAT organization).  My point is complaining about it doesn’t do anything. 

What can I do to be part of the solution? 

It truly amazes me how many people have no clue that they are actually part of the problem.  How many people constantly promote fear and hate without even realizing it.  That tweet, that post, those comments that are just randomly thrown out there.  We have to be willing to really monitor our own thoughts, our own words, our own actions.  Trust me when I tell you that there is A LOT I would like to say.  However, I always have to ask myself if speaking those thoughts and words out loud will move me towards being part of the solution or just feed into the problem.

I will tell you I am truly at my breaking point with social media.  There is nothing you can do or say that doesn’t offend someone.  I have always thought of other people’s social media pages as their home.  I am not going to just invite myself into your home and start problems.  Yet every day that is what grown adults are doing.  There have been so many incidences where I would really like to ask them what the heck is wrong what them!  However, feeding into their insanity then makes me part of the problem.  Instead, I politely ignore them, remove them, or block them.  The truth is we have to work really really hard right now to keep our energetic vibration high!  Don’t let the insanity of others pull you down.  Don’t allow them to take you away from being part of the solution.

For those of you who join me weekly on my private Facebook group “Spiritquest Live” each week for Happy Hour*, you already know what I am about to say.  We are in for one hell of a ride over the next few months.   Each one of us has to decide right now if we will continue to be part of the problem or if we are truly willing to do the very hard work of becoming part of the solution.  

Happy Hour is now being offered with a Guided Meditation.  It is also now accessible through Zoom for those who do not use facebook.  Oh yeah and it is FREE every Wed night.  You can click here to see the schedule and reserve your spot!  Hope to see you there.